How to Peg Someone: The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide to Pegging

Sex is about pushing boundaries, exploring new sensations, and discovering kinks you didn’t know you had. To many couples, pegging is the last boundary to cross. And that’s what makes it so exciting and… intimidating. 

And yet, pegging has gained a lot of popularity as curious couples explore the new depths (pun intended) of pleasure. If you and your partner want to try it but don’t know where to start, this guide will walk you through everything you need to know about pegging and how to try it in a comfortable, respectful, and enjoyable way. 

Whether you’re simply curious or ready to dive in, here’s how to approach pegging with confidence and fun!

What Is Pegging? A Beginner-Friendly Overview

First things first, let’s clarify what pegging is, just so we’re all on the same page. In simple terms, pegging is a consensual sexual act where one partner (usually female) uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate the other partner (usually male). 

Pegging allows couples to step outside traditional roles and explore different sensations together. And we’re not talking just about spicing up your sexual life. Many find that pegging fosters trust and excitement, creating a sense of adventure in the bedroom. 

Pegging 101: How to Get Started?

For new pegging explorers, getting started might seem a tad intimidating. And we get it. As passionate and exciting as exploring new kinks can be, it’s natural to feel uncertain as you dive into the unknown. Luckily, there are several things you can do to make things more comfortable, enjoyable, and, most importantly, safe. 

Getting Comfortable with the Idea

The first rule of pegging is simple: communication is key. Talking openly with your partner is essential when considering pegging. Not everyone is immediately comfortable with the idea, so having a respectful, pressure-free conversation is a great starting point. 

Discuss boundaries, interests, and any specific desires or concerns either of you may have. You might even want to have a few smaller discussions over time to let both partners feel heard and understood.

Next, remember that mutual consent is the foundation of a positive experience. Make sure both of you are comfortable and willing. Even if the concept feels a bit nerve-wracking, focus on creating a sense of trust so each of you can explore without feeling pressured.

And finally, let go of preconceptions. There are a lot of myths surrounding pegging, which can make some people hesitant. 

Some might wonder if it "means something" about their preferences or relationship dynamics. In reality, pegging is just another consensual act that couples can explore together. Shedding unnecessary preconceptions will help you both feel more relaxed and open to the experience.

Choosing the Right Equipment

Once you’re both mentally ready and confident you want to explore pegging, it’s time to gear up. Here’s what you’ll need to get started:

• A Strap-On. Finding the right strap-on is crucial for comfort and enjoyment. For beginners, opt for a basic harness that can securely hold a smaller dildo. Speaking of which, go for a standard silicone dildo. It’s easy to clean, body-safe, and more comfortable than stainless steel or glass. There’s no need to go for anything too elaborate at first; starting with something simple will make it easier to focus on connection rather than equipment.

• Lube, lube, lube. Since pegging involves anal play, proper lubrication is essential. That’s because the human anus doesn’t naturally lubricate on its own. Using plenty of high-quality lube will make things much smoother and more comfortable. Water-based lubricants are the best option, as they are safer, easier to clean, and more sex-toy-friendly. 

• Stay clean. Hygiene is a big part of making sure pegging is enjoyable. Clean your toys with warm water and gentle soap before and after use, and use condoms on toys if you’re sharing them or switching between uses. Prioritize safety and cleanliness to keep things worry-free and fun.

Setting the Mood

All geared up and ready to go? Let’s get started. Don’t hurry, though. Take your time to relax and set the mood. Ensure you’re both comfortable and focused on the experience. 

A relaxed, patient approach makes a huge difference. A soothing massage, soft lighting, or comforting music can help both of you get in the right headspace.

Keep the communication channels open, too. As your partner, how does something feel or whether they feel comfortable? Checking in helps you stay in tune with each other's comfort, setting the stage for the rest of the journey. 

How to Peg Someone

Okay, the stage is ready. You’re both comfortable, the mood is set, and you’re throbbing with excitement. It’s time to go in. Literally. 

Exploring Beginner-Friendly Positions

Like in traditional sex, there are tons of positions you can try when pegging. However, there are certain positions that are better suited for beginners. Positions that will make it easier for you to control speed, depth, and comfort. 

Spooning, for example, is a great position to start with. It allows the receiving partner to control the angle, helping them feel more at ease. Another beginner-friendly option is having the receiving partner on all fours in a doggy position. 

As you both become more comfortable, experiment with other positions that feel natural and exciting, such as cowboy or missionary. 

Pacing and Rhythm

Starting slow is the best way to ensure a comfortable and enjoyable experience. Begin with gentle, slow movements and build up speed as comfort allows. 

Remember, slow and steady wins the race, especially when trying something new. Focus on each other’s reactions to guide the rhythm and keep things enjoyable. Communicate with each other as you experiment with the depth and speed of your thrusts.

Reading Body Language

While talking to each other is the easiest way to communicate, pay attention to body language as well. Look at cues like breathing changes or body tension to gauge their comfort level. This non-verbal feedback can help make the experience smoother and more enjoyable for both of you. 

Check-In & Reconnect

When the dust settles, it’s time to reconnect. Aftercare is an important part of the experience. Spend time cuddling, talking, or simply being close. After exploring something new, some closeness and reassurance can help you both feel secure and connected. 

Having a relaxed conversation about the experience is also a good idea. Talk about what you both enjoyed and if there’s anything you’d want to change for next time. Openly discussing likes and dislikes creates a stronger bond and makes future experiences even more comfortable.

And finally, embrace the accomplishment! Trying something new takes courage, trust, and vulnerability, so celebrate this milestone in your relationship. Even if you decide it’s not for you, the experience has likely brought you closer together.

Wrapping Up

And that would be it. As you can see, pegging is not as scary as some try to paint it. Whether you’re trying it once or making it a regular part of your relationship, remember that pegging is about connection, fun, and shared exploration.
So, happy exploring! And remember, if you’re looking for top-quality sex toys to spice up your sex life or are just looking for some extra sex tips, Ballistic Metal has got you covered.
And as for pegging, take your time, focus on each other, and enjoy the adventure.