How to Use a Fleshlight

By now you’ve likely heard all there is about Fleshlights. Or have you?

Since you’re here it means you haven’t yet mastered the gentle art of using a Fleshlight. Don’t worry, though. It’s not rocket science. 

Simply put (pun intended), you insert your penis into the Fleshlight toy, which can either imitate a vagina, butt, or lips and… well, enjoy yourself in the reciprocating motion. 

That itself is painfully easy, but there’s more to using a Fleshlight than meets the eye. And that’s why we’re here, to provide you with a helping hand and ensure you get the most out of your Fleshlight shenanigans. 

Let’s get right to it, shall we?

What Is a Fleshlight?

Okay, before you get intimate with your new Fleshlight, it’s good to learn some basics about what a Fleshlight is and what it isn’t. In simple terms, a Fleshlight is nothing else than a good old male masturbator, or penis stroker if you prefer that name. 

What fleshlight isn’t is a flashlight. A subtle difference, but unfortunately you won’t be able to read a book under the blanket with one (although who knows what the future brings). 

Fleshlight toys are built like a tube ending with an artificial vagina (the most popular option), anus, or lips, into which you insert your penis. 

The interior is shaped into a soft textured canal that imitates the interior of a female’s vagina or anus, imitating the feel you’d have during intercourse, which, that goes without saying, offers much more intense sensations than when masturbating with your hand. 

Fleshlights also have removable caps at each end. One, as already explained, is for your penis. Another is for adjusting the suction you get once you’re in, which adds another layer to the lifelike sensations you crave. 

How to Use a Fleshlight: The Basics

Okay, with the basics covered (more or less), it’s time for this guide’s main course, which is, drum roll please, the actual guide to using a Fleshlight.

Step 1: Warm Your Fleshlight Up

Alright, step one is… warming your Fleshlight up. Now, while it’s not necessary (if you don’t want to you can skip to step two), we really recommend you do so. 

Why? Simple, warming up your Fleshlight will make it feel much more realistic, much closer to the lifelike sensations of having sex with a woman. As for answering how to warm up your Fleshlight, you have several options here:

Alternatively, you can also use a warming lubricant, which will come in handy when you’re in a hurry. And speaking of lubricants… 

Step 2: Lube It Up

Although they are made to imitate a female’s vagina, pocket pussies can’t self-lubricate. This means that using a lube is a must; and not just for more pleasant sensations but for the health of your penis, too. 

For a slippery, smooth, and, most importantly, enjoyable ride lube your penis and Fleshlight up, preferably with a water-based lubricant as they are the safest ones to use with all types of sex toys. 

Be sure to coat your penis, as well as the insides and outsides of your Fleshlight. With everything lubed up, you can proceed to the next step.

Step 3: Penetrate & Thrust

“FINALLY!” We hear you, loud and clear. Yes, once your cock and Fleshlight are all shiny and slippery, you can finally get started with the fun part - actually using your Fleshlight. 

There are no general rules here. Set the tempo and rhythm, and enjoy your Fleshlight. Go slow, speed it up, twist, turn, use your hands, go hands-free… whatever you want to try, do it. That’s the point of using a male masturbator - letting it go and having fun. 

Also, while you’re at it (or, to be exact, in it), be sure to experiment with different levels of suction. Oh, and when things start to rub a bit too hard, use more lube. 

Step 4: Clean It Up

Nothing lasts forever, even you. Once you’re done using your Fleshlight, it’s time to clean it up. To do it, simply remove the sleeve from the case and run hot water through it to remove all remaining lube, cum, and other bodily fluids.

As tempting as it might be, do not use soap, as it can degrade the skin-like material your toy’s sleeve is made of. Instead, use a specialized sex toy cleaner. 

Once your Fleshlight is cleaned up thoroughly, let it dry, put it back together, and store it in a closed container until you use it again. Regular cleaning and proper storage are crucial for expanding your Fleshlight’s lifespan and ensuring it's always safe to use. 

How to Use a Fleshlight: Hands-On vs. Hands-Off

There are two main ways to use a Fleshlight - hands-on and hands-off. 

The first method, as its name suggests, involves using your hand to grab the masturbator and stroke it on your penis, just like you would when doing some usual handiwork.

Hands-off (or hands-free) method means not using your hands. The simplest way to do it is by using your Fleshlight with a pillow or furniture, for instance, you can fold your pillow in two and wedge your Fleshlight inside. 

To enjoy your Fleshlight hands-free, you can also invest in a mount. Shower mounts, for instance, are extremely popular, as they allow you to have some fun while under the shower. A great option for blowing off steam before work without losing much time. 

As for deciding which method is better, it’s all up to you. Some prefer using hands, others like them free or used for other activities. 

Tips for Maximizing the Fleshlight Experience

As said, using a Fleshlight is not rocket science. Even without any frills, it’s easy to lose yourself in Fleshlight’s magic. However, if you want to take it up a notch, there are several things you can try to enhance your sensations.

Use Other Toys

A Fleshlight is likely not the only weapon in your sex toy arsenal. If that’s the case, we strongly recommend experimenting with other toys. 

A cock vibrator or cock ring, for instance, offers a magical experience, significantly increasing the sensations. Or, if you’re not afraid of new sensations, why not use anal toys, such as a prostate massager or butt plug for some anal fun?

Spice It Up with VR

Virtual reality (VR) is slowly taking over the adult industry. And it’s not hard to see why. With your VR goggles on, you can feel like you’re in a porn film. A sensation that a Fleshlight can take to a whole new level, especially if you use one resembling your favorite pornstar. 

Invite Your Partner to Join the Fun

Contrary to what some believe, pocket pussies aren’t reserved for lonely men. Many couples who like experimenting in the bedroom love using Fleshlights to push boundaries even further in an exploration of new sensations. 

If you and your partner are just like that, introducing a Fleshlight to your sex life can take it to the next level. 

Wrapping Up

And that would be it for today. Hopefully, today’s lesson was fun and, most importantly, valuable for you. As you can see, using a Fleshlight is as simple as one-two-three. You just need to remember some ground rules. The rest is up to you. 

So, what are you waiting for? Have fun. Enjoy yourself! And remember that for all things sex toys, Ballistic Metal is here to help. Browse our online sex store today to discover new toys and explore our blog for more tips on how to use them.